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I placed my baby girl for adoption last April. Her first birthday is next week April 16th. I miss her so much, I am struggling with what to give her for her birthday. I want her to have something very special. What makes it tough is that she has everything she could ever want from her adoptive parents. I feel like I can't compete. Does that make any sense? Please any ideas or comments would be helpful..

My son's 4th birthday was April 3, so I know what you are going through. I have struggled each year on his birthday and Christmas trying to find him the "perfect" gift. I feel the same way- his adoptive parents are able to give him anything and everything he needs. What about giving her something she could collect? One idea I've thought is the precious moments birthday train. There is a different piece for each birthday, and they connect together. That is something I think is really neat and something she could treasure forever. I'll be thinking of you and hope you find the perfect gift. Whatever you do get her, it will be special and I'm sure she will love it, and even though she's too little to understand now, I'm sure her adoptive parents will appreciate anything you do give. Let me know what you decide! I hope this helps. Take care

I'm sorry I don't have any gift ideas for you, but I have to agree that she will probably cherish anything you give her. Just the fact that she has something from you will be what makes it so special. No matter what her parents give her, that's something that they can't. Good luck figuring it out

my daughter turns three this october and every birthday i struggle to find a gift good enough for her. what you might try is make her a photoalbulm of pictures from your childhood up to today so she has something he can compare herself to as she gets older. she might have your nose or something of that nature and that gives her some base to go from.
good luck and bless you

angel

Thankyou so much for such great ideas and encouragement. Just the thought is so overwhelming and I can't stop crying. I pray I make it through this Friday with peace and reassurance. Sometimes I feel inferior to the adoptive parents because I can't give her what she already has which is everything. They have been very nice and have sent me pictures and letters often which makes me feel guilty for the way I feel. I am so happy that she is well taken care of and loved ,but there is still a hole in my heart and I miss her more than words could express. They don't know I feel this way, but I guess it comes with the territory huh. Does anyone else feel like this?

Hey, my son just turned 1 on April 18...so our babies are really close in age.

I have decided to send him a book for each Christmas and birthday...because I love to read, you can never have too many books, and it's something that will kind of grow with him. I just wrote "To Zach, Happy First Birthday, Love Teresa" on the inside of it.

I'm not too crafty and not into perfect gifts, but I think books are always good!

God bless,
Teresa